To the well-trained mind, there are no “mistakes” or “problems” – there are only events. And all events can be created from.
I read a weird article yesterday entitled, “What is Toxic Positivity? Why It’s OK to Not Be OK Right Now.” “Toxic Positivity” as I understand it, is that weak, fake positive spin approach to seeing reality. It means deluding yourself into thinking some bad set of circumstances isn’t really so bad, or that it’ll just pass. The term “toxic positivity” is stupid, though. It’s a complete oxymoron. If it was legitimately positive, it could never be toxic. It should really be called “Phony Positivity” because it refers to the attitude of someone who is faking positivity.
Fundamentally, I dislike the article because I think it reflects some obtuse thinking. The article does, however, have some value in that it validates the reader for feeling crappy sometimes. There is great value in feeling validated. It takes the “crazy” out. Validation is huge. It helps you feel normal. So the article is validating people now for feeling like shit during this pandemic. According to this the article, there are only two options:
Be Toxically Positive and tell yourself this bad thing will just go away at some point and everything will be fine. Keep your chin up.
Be honest with yourself that this totally sucks and give yourself permission to feel like shit.
The problem I have with this kind of thinking is that it whiffs completely on a third, very powerful option. Have a listen to see what they missed.
The link to the article: