Anxiety = LIE (always) | The Mental Toughness Coach - Chris Dorris

Anxiety = LIE (always)

Here’s a really simple and powerful rule of thumb:

If you ever have anxiety about it, you have faulty beliefs about it.

Byron Katie said something like this: “If you’re feeling unpleasant, it is because at that moment you are believing a thought that is simply not true.”

The practice of strengthening your mind fundamentally involves consistently asking yourself questions like: “How am I feeling right now? How is my inner state?” This is called self-inquiry. It’s predicated upon awareness – which strengthens, like anything, with rehearsal.

Here’s one of the most fundamental and powerful Mental Toughness disciplines or exercises that you can use to upgrade your state when you’re feeling low:


Step one is to catch yourself when you’re feeling poorly. Step two is to take ownership of that by acknowledging that your state isn’t due to anything external, but rather it is solely the product of your thinking in that moment. And step three is to replace, or upgrade your thoughts and thus your mood.

It’s a powerful habit to get into – upgrading your state. After all, the better you feel, the better you are – at everything (except being miserable).


  1. Bodil says:

    Byron Katie is always right on and we use her words when we teach
    the Sedona Method about Letting Go. It works wonders!

  2. Dr. Sian says:

    This is powerful advice–along with the suggestion of practice. I have incorporated this practice for myself and can now “instantly” shift my mental state whenever “I” choose! GREAT Stuff

  3. Tanya says:

    Thank you Chris. This is exactly what I needed to hear today.

  4. Mina says:

    Thank you Chris :)))))

  5. Cy Garrick says:

    Perfection as always!

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