Here’s a really simple and powerful rule of thumb:
If you ever have anxiety about it, you have faulty beliefs about it.
Byron Katie said something like this: “If you’re feeling unpleasant, it is because at that moment you are believing a thought that is simply not true.”
The practice of strengthening your mind fundamentally involves consistently asking yourself questions like: “How am I feeling right now? How is my inner state?” This is called self-inquiry. It’s predicated upon awareness – which strengthens, like anything, with rehearsal.
Here’s one of the most fundamental and powerful Mental Toughness disciplines or exercises that you can use to upgrade your state when you’re feeling low:
CATCH –> OWN –> REPLACE
Step one is to catch yourself when you’re feeling poorly. Step two is to take ownership of that by acknowledging that your state isn’t due to anything external, but rather it is solely the product of your thinking in that moment. And step three is to replace, or upgrade your thoughts and thus your mood.
It’s a powerful habit to get into – upgrading your state. After all, the better you feel, the better you are – at everything (except being miserable).