When I was studying in India – learning to free myself from the conditioning of the past that would have me struggle – one of the most powerful lessons was that NOTHING NEEDS TO BE AVOIDED. Not only does nothing need be avoided, everything, when experienced fully, becomes joy. Including “discomfort”. There’s nothing uncool about being uncomfortable. In fact, it’s just the opposite. Growth occurs in discomfort and it doesn’t occur in comfort. And growth is cool. Which makes discomfort cool. Or valuable. Or both. We’re often taught to believe (that’s the “conditioning of our past” to which I constantly […]
When they started their 1st round of Mental Toughness Training sessions, Brielle was 12 and Brinson was 9 years old. That was 13 years ago. And they haven’t taken a day off in the interim. Meet the Paolinis. To describe this sister/brother duo as powerful or impressive or even as three standard deviations above the norm in every measurable category feels like a miserably weak understatement. Brielle is currently in her third year in Wake Forest’s MD/PhD Program in Neuroscience (click here for her bio). She graduated Summa Cum Laude from William and Mary – the athlete with the […]
I love deep sea fishing. There is no sport or form of entertainment that, for me, compares to the thrill of landing a massive sea behemoth. Just the possibility alone is so energizing. I’ve spent many a day alone on the sea having caught nothing but having experienced the sensation of “maybe, just maybe, today’s the day” – the excitement of potential. The sea is so vast and so deep and so unknown. It’s another world. And fishing it, especially for the big game, is an exercise of pure uncertainty, contradiction and paradox. And if you can’t deal with those, then the […]
I often find myself sharing the story of the response that the founder of The Oneness University, Sri Bhagavan (pictured above), had when I answered his question, “Chris, what do you want in life?” I had prepared my response long in advance as I knew before the retreat that I’d have this opportunity to visit with him at the end of it and I was told repeatedly that he would be asking me this question. I actually had a very long response, as I was prepared for a long conversation, but as fate would have it, we had only enough […]
These guys have been playing the game their whole lives. They’re the best on the planet. Why would they still practice things like lay-ups and free throws and ball handling? Haven’t they learned that by now? Shouldn’t they be beyond that by now? Well, the short answer is, no. I mean, yes, they’ve learned how to handle the ball and to shoot free throws (hold on, THAT might be debatable – let’s exclude free throw shooting from this example) and certainly how to make a lay up. But that doesn’t mean they should be beyond having to continue drilling […]
I got pulled over the other day. Decided to try something new with the cop. He came up to the car and told me I had been speeding. I asked him if that was, in fact, his observation, that my velocity had been exceeding the legal limit. He squinted at me a little and said, yeah. So I ask him if he’s familiar with the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle. He said no. I explained to him that that principle shows us that the energetics involved in the act of making a conscious observation of something changes either its velocity or […]
You know what really stresses me out? Nothing. Know why? Because nothing can. There is no such thing as a stressful event. There are only events. And they aren’t “stressful” until I choose to interpret them in that manner. There’s a lot of freedom in understanding that. Stress cannot occur until I interpret something as stressful. In other words, nothing, by itself, is stressful. And there are no exceptions to this. But it sure seems like plenty of things are stressful. It sure seems like things “stress me out”. “Seems” is the operative there. It simply appears to be the […]
It's a good thing I meditated this morning (which I highly recommend, by the way.) If I hadn't I'd be pissed right now. This kind of crap really stews my tomatoes!
I go get the paper out of the driveway and that's the first headline I see in the CareerBuilder section.
"It can be really hard to turn down a job offer. But sometimes you should."
Really? I should?
Let's break this down so as to fully expose the debilitating, weak, passion sucking, conditioned lie that's inherent within that headline.
If you or someone you know is about to graduate from college, please advise them NOT to get a job! Jobs are becoming obsolete. If your friend loved listening to music, you wouldn’t advise them to go out and get some tape cassettes of their favorite music. You’d advise them to at least get a cd, or to download the music into their ipod. Cassettes are to MP3’s as jobs are to passions. Inherent within our passions are the mechanics for success, fulfillment, and the greatest contribution and impact. When we are engaged in a project about which we are effortlessly and intrinsically […]